The 5 Marriage Proposal Mistakes Men Make With Their Girlfriends
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By Michael Webb
Did you know that a man once hospitalized his girlfriend trying to propose marriage to her?
Seriously! He slipped the engagement ring into her shot glass and as they toasted to his speech and…she swallowed it! Now, she survived, but they did need a trip to the emergency room.
Not a great idea for proposing marriage to your girlfriend is it?
In fact, it’s ‘embarrassing yet funny marriage proposals like these that remind me of the five ways that guys totally DESTROY this precious moment for women by making horrendous marriage proposal mistakes.
So if you’re thinking about proposing marriage to your girlfriend in the near future, please don’t make these crazy mistakes that other guys make.
1. Creating a Public Spectacle
Whether it’s a party, family get-together or Yankee game, please realize that you should never propose to your girlfriend if she wouldn’t feel comfortable with a public proposal. Not only might it embarrass her, but she may feel pressured to say “Yes,” only to tell you the truth later.
The bottom line is, think about what sort of person your lady is first before proposing marriage to her: Is she shy, cautious or a little reserved? Then maybe a private proposal is the better way to go.
Give it some thought, and don’t allow the movies to lead you to believe that a public marriage proposal to your girlfriend is a good idea. Because in most cases…it’s not!
2. “Over-Doing” the Proposal
Some men’s idea of an amazing marriage proposal to their girlfriend is slapping together all the “usual” romantic things into one big event and calling it a “marriage proposal.” Sadly, this couldn’t be further from the truth.
For example: A man serves the candlelit dinner, presents her flowers, chocolates, a teddy bear and then proposes to her.
Sad. I’m sorry, but if you believe your lady deserves the most magnificent experience of her life, then understand that normal “everyday romance” is only good for…everyday romance! In other words, this sort of thing is not fit for an unforgettable marriage proposal to your girlfriend.
And honestly, she may never admit it, but she’ll most likely be disappointed.
3. Being Unprepared
You usually only get one shot at your marriage proposal so you MUST get it right! No pressure of course! But you should always rehearse through the things that could go wrong, create backup plans and do your best to make sure your proposal idea is safe!
If you’re creating a more elaborate proposal, you’ll need extra caution. Physically rehearse through the situations, discover what could go wrong and work out solutions around them. Get your friends together and brainstorm the sticky situations that could come up on the day you decide to propose to your girlfriend.
Of course, life is unpredictable and things may change, but be prepared the best you can.
4. Spending Way Too Much Money
Hang on! You’re probably wondering, “How is spending TOO MUCH money on a marriage proposal a problem?” Well it all depends. The problem with money is that it often becomes a substitute for creativity.
As a result, you get a “nice” memorable proposal but nothing that’s “jaw-dropping!” More than likely your girlfriend might prefer a creative marriage proposal that was tailor-made for her specifically as opposed to one that cost you a fortune to put together.
5. Using a “Done-to-Death” Marriage Proposal Idea
Now here’s the biggest marriage proposal mistake of them all. Yes, coming up with creative and original ideas to propose is tough, but it’s a must if you want your moment to be remembered and talked about for years to come!
Your proposal needs to be personalized to your girlfriend. What are her favorite hobbies, music and interests? These are the starting points to an incredible proposal that everyone will talk about for years to come.
While the Eiffel tower, hot air balloons and getting the waiter to bring out the ring on a platter are “okay” ideas; they’re not creative and original enough for one of the most important and memorable moments of both your lives.
From The Editors: Oprah Love Expert, Michael Webb, is the author of The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question, a book filled with 101 creative and unique marriage proposals, hand-picked as award-winning stories from a total of 7,329 entries in a worldwide competition.
If you want to ensure that your marriage proposal is truly unforgettable to your beloved, visit: www.proposalstories.com today to learn more!
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