How to Make a Man Fall in Love With You – 5 Ways to Win His Heart
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By David Carter
Ladies, there is something that I think you all should know when it comes to figuring out how to make a man fall in love with you. The truth is, there really is no one size fits all when it comes to what a good man wants in a woman.
However, I will admit that there are certain qualities and factors that WILL make some women more appealing and irresistible then others when it comes to what men are looking for in a woman that they WANT to fall in love with and build a long-lasting relationship.
So if you want to captivate the heart of a man, always remember that a high-quality guy (the kind of man that will love you with passion and treat you with compassion) is going to want a woman of high quality as well.
And believe me when I tell you that being a high-quality woman has more to do with who you are as a person, how you treat others, and how you carry yourself more anything else.
Listed below are just a few of the most important qualities and factors that will help you to become much more irresistible to a high-quality man. These are the things that can help you to make a man fall in love with you and STAY in love with you in a committed relationship that you both will enjoy.
1. Be Honest With Him
Let me be blunt here for a minute…
Great guys do not want to build relationships with dishonest women. And ALL of my guy friends who are either married or in a serious relationship will tell you the same thing.
If you want the RIGHT man to fall for you, be completely honest and upfront with him about whom you are, what you’re all about, and what you want out of life.
This doesn’t mean that when you first meet a guy that you need to tell him everything about your past. Sometimes being mysterious at first can be a bit more romantic and fun. But what I’m saying is to be yourself; the best version of that self, and to be upfront and candid with him.
Why? Because the real you will come out eventually. And also because he will RESPECT you in the end, that’s why. And if you so happen to be honest and upfront with a guy and he doesn’t respect you for it, simply move on. Any guy who can’t accept you being yourself and having your own set of standards and beliefs is obviously not a good match for you.
Men of standard and integrity do not enjoy being around women who tend to manipulate the truth to get what they want. And no good man in his right mind will want to be in a relationship with a woman who’s turned out to be something completely different from what he thought she was.
So remember, be yourself always, and let the chips fall where they may.
2. Support His Dreams
Do things to show your support for his dreams, goals, and ambitions. If you take a genuine interest in his success and well-being, a man is more likely to fall helplessly in love with you.
A great guy wants to know that you’re capable of being the support that he needs as he works and perseveres to make his dreams a reality. In fact, he doesn’t just want a woman who can encourage him to bring out his fullest potential; he needs it.
The more you can become one of his main “go-to” sources for inspiration and encouragement, the more he will see you as an indispensable part of his life.
A quality guy is usually a man with a plan, a dream, or some sort of ideal that he wants to live up to. And he needs a woman by his side that can be a source of strength during tough times and a companion to celebrate with during the good times.
3. Let Him Feel Like a Man
I know most people say that a woman should make a man feel like a man. Well, I kind of have the opinion that only a man can make himself “feel” like a man. However, a woman who knows what she’s doing can help him by allowing him the opportunity to “strut his stuff” so to speak.
Men have enormous egos, and they love to have them stroked by a woman. You can captivate a man simply by allowing him the pleasure of feeling manly around you. Sounds strange? It isn’t!
Believe me, the more a great guy feels like he’s “the man” around you, the more he will WANT to be around you.
To this day I’m puzzled at how some women have developed the unconscious habit of emasculating the men in their lives and then they always wonder why they end up being alone.
It’s not rocket science, ladies. A man will SEEK OUT the company of a woman who encourages him to be the man and who allows him the gift of feeling masculine around her.
You want a man to feel more like a man around you? Try these ideas on for size:
- Encourage him to make decisions and ask him his opinion (with the intention of actually listening to him).
- Give him important “manly” jobs to do like fixing things or removing pests (lizards, frogs, spiders, etc.) from your presence. And compliment him as he does it. You don’t have to play helpless, but rather encourage his masculine need to protect and serve by showing him that you need him, and that you enjoy having him around.
- Show off your true womanly nature by making your appearance and body language more feminine. Take care of your physical appearance and try wearing clothing that is soft and delicate. Men love the sight and touch of soft materials on women, and it brings out something primal within them that make them want to embrace and protect.
4. Don’t Try To Change Him
I’m sure I don’t have to go into too much detail with this one do I? No man wants to end up being with a woman whose sole mission is to shape and mold him into the kind of man she really wants. In fact, if you have to shape and mold a man into the kind of man you want, here is a tip for you…he’s not the right guy!
If you want to the right man then you need to learn how to just let him be himself. A good man won’t try to change you. If you’re the right woman for him, then he will accept you as you are, flaws and all, and he won’t make it his life’s mission to make you into the kind of woman that he wants.
Trust me, trying to change someone into what YOU want or what you think they should be will only lead to anger and disappointment. And the trick to captivating the heart of a man is to just accept him just the way he is without trying to mold him into your idea of perfection.
The more a man can truly be himself around you without feeling that you’ll try to change him, the more comfortable he will become around you and more willing he’ll be to commit in the long-run.
If he’s a quality guy, he has his own sense of independence that he doesn’t want to just give up so easily. If you really want him, you’re going to have to learn to be patient and understanding with him and allow him make a conscious decision to commit to you.
If a great guy feels as if he’s being manipulated into being or doing something because of you, it’ll be impossible for you to make him fall in love with you.
5. Respect Him
You know, I love saving the best things for last. And this one idea is probably the best of them all. Why? Well, I’ll tell you…
It is impossible for a man to fall in love and stay in love with you if he feels as if you do not RESPECT him.
Impossible.
Men feel loved very differently from women, and a man can only fall in love with a woman that he feels respected and admired by.
In fact, everything I’ve said up to this point can be summed up with this one idea. The more you can exercise self-control around a man and give him your respect and admiration, the more he will fall in love with you.
When you’re honest with him, you’re respecting his intelligence and what he stands for. When you support his dreams you’re respecting his ideals and goals, the very things that drive him in life.
When you allow him to feel like a man you’re respecting his need to protect and provide for those he loves. And when you aren’t interested in changing him to suit your needs, he feels as if you respect his sense of self, his desire for independence, and his right to choose.
This kind of respect even flows into other areas like respect for his friends and his family. And aside from disrespecting him in the front of others, the fastest way to turn a man off is to disrespect those he holds dearest to him.
You’ll notice that even among other men, honor and loyalty are non-negotiable in a healthy male friendship. Any sign of blatant disrespect (friendly joking aside) is not tolerated, especially among high-quality men.
Seriously, it’s that important to a man.
Remember, in order to make a man fall in love with you, you must cater to his natural desire for respect and admiration. So if you’re finding it difficult to respect a man, then chances are he may not be the right guy in the first place.
And if you can’t respect him as a man, you won’t be able to love him completely as a woman.
Think about it.
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