How to Improve Your Relationship With Your Husband or Boyfriend
By Kara Oh
Sometimes our relationship can become a bit stale and may need a bit more spicing up. Sometimes our relationship may just require a little more spark to reignite the fires of love and intimacy that makes us feel so happy and desirable as women.
Whatever it may be, if you want to improve your relationship with your husband or boyfriend look no further. I’ve put together five simple ideas for you to begin using right away, whether you want to save your relationship with your man or make him fall more in love with you.
1. Communicate Gracefully
Instead of complaining, whining, or raising your voice at your husband or boyfriend, speak softly with clear, concise, respectful, and loving language.
How do you do that? Well, before you react subconsciously to something he says or does, stop for however long you need to in order to calm yourself. Become relaxed and self-controlled in your demeanor before you respond to him.
If you need to, consider walking away from the situation. In a calm tone, explain to him that you need to collect your thoughts before continuing. After you’ve collected yourself, plan what it is you want to say to him.
Sometimes I even write down what I need to communicate so I remember what I need to say. Then, when it’s time to talk about it with him, I tactfully ask that I be allowed to finish before he speaks.
Trust me, you’ll be surprised how well this works. He’ll stay open to what you need to say to him, you’ll be heard, and better yet, understood. And if you continue throughout the conversation as two people who love each other, your relationship will blossom.
How does communicating gracefully benefit to you? You’ll get his attention, his cooperation, and his respect.
Why does communicating gracefully work? Well, because men need clear, concise, unemotional language to be able to hear you. Otherwise, they shut it out completely. And we all know how good they can be at doing that.
2. Develop an Attitude of Gratitude
If you want to improve your relationship with your husband or boyfriend, look at the different ways in which he makes you happy and let him know…regularly.
Some examples might be: “It makes me happy that you like solving problems for me,” or, “You make me feel wonderful when you tell me you love me,” or, “It makes me happy that you help with the kids and they love it.”
One of the chapters in my book, Men Made Easy, is titled: “Why Men Are Driven To Make Women Happy.” Letting him know you’re happy makes him feel successful. He needs that and you can give it to him.
How does being more grateful more often benefit you? Your husband or boyfriend will start looking for more ways to make you happy.
Why does being more grateful more often work? If you’re not happy he feels like a failure. This is not good for one simple reason…men hate to fail.
3. Show Him Your Appreciation
Appreciate your husband or boyfriend more often, especially for his masculine qualities and those things you know he likes about himself. How to show him you appreciate him? Well, start by taking note of all the things he’s proud of and be him that you notice them as well.
Examples could be: “I really appreciate what a nice home you’ve been able to give us, thank you so much,” or, “I love how strong you are. I like watching you work,” or, “The way you make love to me is so perfect, mmmmmm.”
How does showing him your appreciation benefit you? He’ll fall more in love with you each time you do it and you’ll make him feel like a hero. (The last secret in Men Made Easy is “A man wants to be with a woman who makes him feel like a man.”)
Why does showing him your appreciation work? This is simply because men compete with other men and need to feel as if they measure up somehow. You can become his go-to source of validation when it comes to his worth as a man.
4. Kiss Your Man Romantically
If you want to improve your relationship with your husband or boyfriend, give him romantic kisses instead of pecks. And if you want to know how to kiss a man, always remember to kiss him in a way that tells him that he’s all that you want and need and that you love just having him around.
Long hello kisses tell him you’re glad to see him, long good-bye kisses tell him you can’t wait until he returns, long thank-you kisses tell him that you really appreciate what he did for you, and “hey you, kiss me” kisses tell him you want him.
How does kissing your man romantically benefit you? He’ll feel more connected to you and look forward to being with you.
Why does kissing your man romantically work? Physical connection is the only way most men know how to be intimate with a woman. And when it boils down to it, it the level of intimacy between a couple that makes a relationship so special.
5. Flirt with Him Often
Be playful with your husband or boyfriend. Tease him, talk sexy once in a while, gaze into his eyes with a “come here, big boy” twinkle, and offer him sexy kisses and enticing physical touches.
Why do we think we can quit doing the things we did when we were first falling in love and expect our relationship to stay strong? The relationships that endure are those where the couple stays “in love”. That means flirting, being playful, being sexy and sensual, and remembering why we fell in love in the first place.
How does flirting with your man benefit you? You’ll both feel younger, friskier, and more in love.
Why does flirting with your man work? Well, it works because flirting is a kind of play, and playfulness helps cement your bond. And adding the sexual energy to the mix keeps the sexual side of your relationship alive and vibrant.
And please keep in mind that whenever the sexual side of your relationship dies, you become roommates at best.
The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need
If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.
That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is…the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it.
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