How to Get More Time and Attention From Your Man
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“Your primary sense of self is through your relationships–as a mother, a friend, and a wife and lover; his is his success as a man.” ~ Men Made Easy
By Kara Oh
A common complaint that I often get from women is that their man is too busy with his work to give them the time and attention they want. So how do you solve this?
First things first…
As I explain in one of the secrets about men in Men Made Easy, a man tends to define himself in his work. In other words, this is the way he defines himself ‘as a man.’ If you want to get more attention from him and keep him happy in the process, you need to understand this secret because if you complain, to him it WILL feel like you’re trying to rip apart his identity.
To him, it will feel as if you’re trying to emasculate him. And this is something you don’t want if you want to keep your man and keep yourself happy as well. Yes, he’s driven to be successful, BUT, and this is key, when you’re happy, he feels successful, very successful in fact. But on the other hand, if you’re unhappy, he feels like a failure, and the last thing you want is for him to associate the feelings of failure with you!
So how do you get more of his attention and keep him happy? First, you need to not take it personally. When he was working to win your heart, believe it or not, that was like a job to him. Once that goal was achieved, he went back to focusing on his work. That’s when you saw how he relates to his work.
Some men can leave their work behind at the end of the day, but some can’t. You should have known what you were getting yourself into from the start. So it’s really not fair to complain to him all the time that you’re not getting enough time or attention, and it makes you VERY unattractive.
Show Him Your Undying Gratitude
When he does give you quality time and attention, appreciate the heck out of him by telling him how happy it makes you and how good it makes you feel, but don’t do it all at once. Spread them out, and express your love back to him.
When you do nice things for him, tell him, “I’m doing this as a thank you for taking the time to ________ because it meant so much to me.” Hopefully he’s sensitive enough to notice what he’s been doing that makes you happy and that you are showing him how much you appreciate his attention in some pretty special ways.
Gratitude goes a long way in every relationship, and it is impossible to get more of his attention without it. So the more you show your appreciation for the little things and the time and attention he already gives you, the more he’s going to want to do these things in the future in order to keep you happy.
The primary directive for a great relationship is to approach every situation with the idea of “how can you make this a win/win situation.” It’s not always easy, but ALWAYS worth the effort.
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