Why You Can’t Get Him to Marry to You
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By Kara Oh
Trying to figure out how to get a man to marry you? Maybe I can help you just a bit.
A woman once wrote to me with the following:
“I am in relation for last 4 years. He loves me, cares about me, and says he wants to spend his whole life with me. But he is not ready to get engaged and that kills me. I have tried a lot to change his mind but I’ve failed. He says he still needs time. If he loves me then what’s the reason stopping him from engagement?”
Here’s my response to her and any woman who is trying to get a man to marry her:
You will for sure push him away if you keep trying to figure out how to get him to marry you. He will do it when he’s ready, and not before. If you keep pushing, he will realize you are not the right woman for him and walk away.
You must understand that a man sees marriage as a very serious decision. Men do not see it as the same romantic fantasy that women see it to be. For him, it means he is taking on the financial responsibility for another adult, and if you’re young, any children you might have.
Yes, you work, but a man knows that as the wife, you might decide not to work in the future. He takes that as a huge responsibility. And he also sees marriage as being willing to take on the responsibility of your emotional well-being and happiness as well.
His decision to marry you is a BIG step for him. And it’s a decision that he’s going to want to make intelligently.
That’s just the way it is!
So stop bothering him. Stop making it mean something negative just because he is waiting. And trust me, if you keep trying to get him to marry you, you WILL become an unattractive woman to him.
Just take a step back and allow things to unfold in their own way and in their own time. It will be much sweeter for you both when he finally comes to the decision on his own. You can’t get him to marry you sooner than he’s ready, so stop trying.
There’s a reason I have dedicated the last dozen years to helping women understand how men are different than women. When you fully embrace and honor those differences, your relationships with men will transform.
And if you want to figure out how to become the kind of woman that a man will want to commit and marry, you can learn more secrets about men in my book, Men Made Easy.
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