The Top 5 Dating Mistakes Men Make With Women
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By Joseph Matthews
Chances are, if you have ever attempted to get a woman attracted to you, you’ve fallen prey to some very common dating mistakes that men make with women.
If you want to avoid these dating mistakes that most men make and actually get real results with women in the hopes of finding one to build a quality relationship with, then you need to know exactly what to avoid.
So if you need some rock solid dating advice, here’s what you need to watch out for:
Mistake #1: Men Try and Convince Women to Like Them Based On Logical Arguments
Men tend to be driven by logic. To us, when we see a problem, we try and use logic to find a solution. In short – men just do the things that make the most sense. That’s how about nine out of every ten men operate.
Unfortunately, when it comes to love and attraction, you simply cannot apply logic! You will fail every single time. This is actually a huge dating mistake made by many men.
If you meet a woman you like, you must learn to appeal to her emotions in order to get her to like you back, because if you try to convince her logically why the two of you should be together, she will NEVER go along with that argument, no matter how much sense it makes.
Read that last sentence two more times…
You won’t be able to convince her logically because women are EMOTIONAL creatures in nature, and they need to feel that chemistry between a man and a woman. No amount of logic can replace that.
Mistake #2: Men Will Act Needy and Desperate Around Women Who Turn Them On
When a guy meets a woman he’s attracted to, he’ll naturally want to be around her more. But too many guys go overboard with this notion.
They start calling the poor girl too much. They want to hang out too often. They focus their entire life around being with this girl.
Men who have NOTHING going on in their lives other than their desire for a woman come off as being desperate and needy. And to a woman, it makes them look…well, desperate and needy!
Women like men who have dreams and goals outside to wanting to be with them. They seek to be inspired by the man they are with, and they are attracted to independence.
Give the woman the space she needs, and invite her to be with you as you pursue your passions. If she can’t make it out with you, don’t worry about it. Just keep giving her opportunities as you live your life.
Mistake #3: Men Try and Convince Women That They’re Confident
Understand that actions will always speak louder than words. Telling a woman that you’re a confident guy will never get you anywhere with her. Why? Well, because women can spot confidence.
You can lie about certain things and get away with it – you can lie about how rich you are, about your past history, about what you do for a living – but you can never lie about your confidence as a man.
All too often, men will try and boast to make themselves feel better about their own insecurities, but all too often, women see right through this charade. This is a huge dating mistake that a lot of guys can’t seem to avoid!
Rather than giving in to your insecurities, allow the women to see your flaws. It takes confidence to show vulnerability. If you act like your insecurities don’t phase you, and that you won’t let them hold you back from taking action, this will go a long way towards convincing the woman of the fact that you are indeed confident, rather than just TELLING her you are.
Mistake #4: Men Will Get Jealous Too Easily
Jealousy will usually flare up alongside insecurity. So many guys are desperate for a girlfriend, that when they find a girl they like, they’ll latch onto her because they don’t think they can find another just as good as her.
Because of this, men tend to get jealous far too easily. Any interaction the girl has with another guy, they see as a threat to themselves.
This, of course, only serves to drive the girl away from them.
It’s best to relax and realize that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Never put all your focus on just one woman. Keep playing the field until you get into a committed relationship with a woman that you really like, adore, and who is right for you and your mission in life.
The more choices you have available to you, the less jealousy you’ll experience as you date.
Mistake #5: Men Will Be Too Forward About Their Intentions
Talking about your desire is okay and natural, but some men just take it WAY too far – to the point where they start to set off the girl’s “alarm bells.”
Don’t get too graphic about want you want from the girl. It’s a turn off. Learn to be vague. Let the woman’s imagination fill in the details – they will always be more effective than anything you say to her.
Learn to flirt, and imply your intentions rather than coming out and talking about them directly. This keeps things light, fun, and mysterious – three things that women need to become attracted.
Remember – just like the romance novels women love to read, they want ROMANCE more than anything else. They want to be swept off their feet, and feel carried away with your advances. So learn what it takes to be a romantic guy and create a bit of mystery with women.
A huge key in being successful with women is cultivating a kind of “magic.” The more subtle and charming you can be, the more the girl will want to go along with it.
Once the woman knows what you’re trying to do, she’ll feel as though you’re trying to manipulate her, as opposed to it “just happening.” Never let that magic fade by having your intentions become obvious!
And if you don’t allow the “magic” to happen naturally…you WILL lose her, plain and simple.
So learn to be a romantic hero, and let the woman feel as though you’re NOT seducing her, even if you are.
Oh, and one more thing…
If you want to learn more about meeting women, my name is Joseph Matthews, and I’ve been been teaching men how to meet women since 2004. I’m also widely recognized as an authority in the subject of confidence building and dating advice for men.
So if you want to discover more about how to meet women, visit my website and check out my free newsletter today over at: www.artofapproaching.com.
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